Today’s topic is ‘how to win friends and influence people’?
We are social creatures and crave love and attention from one another, so how can we Win Friends and Influence People at the same time?
In my humble opinion and from my personal experiences I found, even in my most vulnerable times, I was blessed with a good network of people who lifted my spirits and were there for me.
Later I was told that even though I was ‘VULNERABLE‘ I was always ‘AUTHENTIC‘.
My situation was what it was, I didn’t need to sugar coat it or broadcast it. People in my network saw my grieve and despair. They longed to help but at the same time respected and accepted my decision of being in the situation I was in, they respected my strength and admired my courage and appreciated my decisions to give it all to my situation to make my marriage work then, whether they agreed with it or not.
“Vulnerability is the only authentic state, being vulnerable means being open, for wounding but for also a pleasure. Being open to wounds means being open to lifes bounty and beauty. Don’t mask or deny your vulnerability: it’s your greatest asset. Be vulnerable quake and shake your boots with it. The new goods that are coming to you, in the form of people and situations and things that can only come to you when you’re vulnerable i.e open” – Stephen Russell
I realised, how lucky I was to have amazing people that admired me and chose to stay with me even though I was vulnerable but because I was ‘Authentic’, I didn’t glamour my life, I showed my pain and my strength at the same time, which influenced people to see the real me and gave them courage to handle their situations ‘authentically’.
How are you going to be Vulnerable and Authentic at the same time?
Surprise yourself! You may win new friends and influence them at the same time!
To your best life
PS: There are many self-help books, but I found this one that I felt literally talked to me!
This book made a huge impact on me and changed my interaction with people in the personal and professional context.